In my book, Subliminal Success: How to Harness the Power of Your Subconscious Mind there is a chapter titled, The Power of Affirmations. I put it there because I believe that, used properly, affirmations can be a powerful tool anyone can use to make positive changes in their life.
Affirmations are simply positive statements that you make to yourself that have the potential to change the way you think and, as a result, how you behave. They can be a simple way to address fears or anything else that might be holding you back from living an authentically successful life.
While they seem simple on the surface, you need to know a little bit about affirmations to use them effectively.
Here’s how you can use affirmations as a useful tool for overcoming anything that’s holding you back:
First, use the 4 P’s when creating affirmations.
- Make it Your affirmation must be about “me” or “I.” Affirmations involving others seldom, if ever, work.
- Make it Your affirmation needs to be about something that moves you in the direction of what you want to accomplish. For example, “I am looking forward to speaking in front of groups of people” instead of “I don’t bomb when I speak in public.”
- Make it in the Present tense. The affirmation “I will be brave around women” is stated in the future. If this affirmation actually came true, you’d never be brave around women because this is a character trait that you plan to have sometime in the future. Instead use, “I am courageous when speaking to women”. This is in the present tense and is much more effective.
- Make it Powerful! As you say the affirmation aloud, bring up all up the corresponding feelings.
We like to think we’re logical, but we really aren’t. If we were actually driven by logic, we’d never overeat, skip the gym, or procrastinate. Logic only shows us what we should do, but it often fail us.
Strive to feel the corresponding emotions that you want the affirmation to bring you. Every affirmation you choose to use should make you feel something when you repeat it. Affirmations with an emotional jolt are more effective.
Create your own.
There are endless lists of affirmations but don’t just take the first one you find. Be choosy. Find affirmations that appeal to you or make your own. Look at the affirmations of others for ideas and then use them to create ones that fit you.
Visualize yourself into the affirmation.
Have an image in your mind that represents your affirmation. It might be you eating a healthy meal, meeting the person of your dreams, or fearlessly giving a speech. If you can’t imagine it, you can’t accomplish it.
Avoid using too many.
Repeating 150 affirmations means that you can’t repeat them too often or you’d never do anything else. Too many affirmations also scatter your attention over too many items. Five to ten affirmations are about right.
Use them regularly.
Affirmations won’t work if you say them just once or twice and then forget about them. Repeat your affirmations a few times each day. Preferably at least three times if you’re serious. That’s three times every single day. It’s only a few minutes each time. You have time for that. This leads us to the last tip…
Make use of the time just after waking up and just before falling asleep.
The two best times to repeat affirmations is right when you wake up and right before you fall asleep. You’re in that dreamy, half-awake state. It’s like you have a direct connection to your subconscious.
Use these tips to harness the power of affirmations.
Affirmations are a free, easy, and an extremely effective tool that can help you move toward a life of genuine success.
If you have fears that keep you stuck, and who doesn’t, add affirmations to your toolbox. Affirmations can be useful in getting over the hump and moving to the place where you can take the action you need to accomplish the great things you want to accomplish in life.
This is all you really need. You don’t need to be fearless. You just need to able to mindfully identify the fear that’s holding you back and then use affirmations to reduce it enough to move forward. In a short while, you will have accomplished whatever it is you want to do.
Begin by making a list of affirmations today. Give them a try for 30 days and decide for yourself if they’re worth your effort. You have nothing to lose!