Taming Your Inner Critic

Everyone has an inner critic, a voice inside your head that when you begin doing  something a little bit out of the ordinary and things don’t go just right suddenly starts saying things like:

I can’t believe you did that! You’re such a loser. No one wants to hear what you have to say. You will never amount to anything in life.

Now, maybe your inner critic isn’t quite so vicious and loud, but you, like all of us, have a negative voice inside your head that judges, criticizes, and demeans you. Your inner critic plays a critical role in how you see yourself and can drain your self-esteem.

When you don’t know how to deal with your inner critic, you can begin to feel ashamed, worthless, and low on self-worth.

Why You Need to Deal With Your Inner Critic

Your inner critic can undermine everything you try and take away any feelings of accomplishment. It can show up as you enter a room of people you’ve never met before and give you the feeling, “I don’t belong here”. Your inner critic can lead to self-doubt and a lack of confidence and send you down of path full of anxiety and despair.

When your inner critic takes over, it can, and will hold you back from growing into your full potential.

As I point out in my book, Mindful Mastery, your thoughts control your actions. Every thought you think influences how you behave. The problem with those thoughts is that they are not always true! But by listening to those thought, they can become true!

For example, if someone feels insecure and believes no one wants to talk to them, how charismatic do you think they will be in social settings? Another self-fulling prophecy has been maintained!  

Here are 5 strategies you can use to deal with your inner critic:

  1. Acknowledge Your Inner Critic

When negative thoughts come up, don’t try to suppress them. Instead, acknowledge and capture your thoughts. Then try to analyze them by asking yourself questions like:

  • Who was I when this thought came up?
  • What was I doing?
  • How often does this thought come up?
  • How do this thought affect my behavior?

 

2. Ask Yourself, “What advice would I give a friend in the same situation?”

If you had a friend who came to you in the same situation with the same feelings, what advice would you give to him or her? Would you say the same things to her or him that you are telling yourself? The truth is, we are nearly always harder on ourselves than we are with others.

3. Ask yourself, “Is this true?

While your brain might be telling you that no one wants to talk to you or that you’re a bad person, ask yourself, “Is this actually a fact?”

Make a habit of making the space you need to differentiate between facts and feelings. After thinking about it for a moment, ask yourself, “What is another, more positive way I could look at this situation?

4. Be kind to yourself.

Replace your negative or critical thoughts with accepting and compassionate ones. One of the suggestions I give in Mindful Mastery is to create a selection of empowering, compassionate positive affirmations that you can tell yourself when a negative one pops into your head. The key is to focus your thoughts on your strengths and what you are good at.

5. When you start replaying mistakes in your head do something different. Have you ever made a mistake and replayed those moments over and over again? Psychologists call this ruminating and believe me, it doesn’t resolve the issue. If you find your inner critic taking over, a good technique is to distract yourself, again to give yourself space. You can:

  • Take a walk.
  • Read a book.
  • Listen to a podcast.
  • Play a game.
  • Cuddle your pet.

Remember – Everyone Has an Inner Critic

Having an inner critic is a human function. It comes from the parts of our brain that evolved to protect ourselves. If you find yourself in a loop of critical thoughts, remind yourself that every human will experience self-doubt at one point or another. In fact, it’s a vital part of being human. Then remind yourself that your inner critic does not have to control your life!

There’s a big difference between that harmful voice telling you that you are not good enough and the voice that wants to help you improve. You can use these simple techniques to silence your inner critic and nurture that more empowering inner dialogue that can help you reach your full potential.

Use these techniques to start silencing your inner critic today so you can grow into the person you want to become!

  1. Acknowledge Your Inner Critic

When negative thoughts come up, don’t try to suppress them. Instead, acknowledge and capture your thoughts. Then try to analyze them by asking yourself questions like:

  • Who was I when this thought came up?
  • What was I doing?
  • How often does this thought come up?
  • How do this thought affect my behavior?
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  • 2. Ask Yourself, “What advice would I give a friend in the same situation?”

If you had a friend who came to you in the same situation with the same feelings, what advice would you give to him or her? Would you say the same things to her or him that you are telling yourself? The truth is, we are nearly always harder on ourselves than we are with others.

3. Ask yourself, “Is this true?

While your brain might be telling you that no one wants to talk to you or that you’re a bad person, ask yourself, “Is this actually a fact?”

Make a habit of making the space you need to differentiate between facts and feelings. After thinking about it for a moment, ask yourself, “What is another, more positive way I could look at this situation?

4.  Be kind to yourself.

Replace your negative or critical thoughts with accepting and compassionate ones. One of the suggestions I give in Mindful Mastery is to create a selection of empowering, compassionate positive affirmations that you can tell yourself when a negative one pops into your head. The key is to focus your thoughts on your strengths and what you are good at.

5. When you start replaying mistakes in your head do something different. Have you ever made a mistake and replayed those moments over and over again? Psychologists call this ruminating and believe me, it doesn’t resolve the issue. If you find your inner critic taking over, a good technique is to distract yourself, again to give yourself space. You can:

  • Take a walk.
  • Read a book.
  • Listen to a podcast.
  • Play a game.
  • Cuddle your pet.

Remember – Everyone Has an Inner Critic

Having an inner critic is a human function. It comes from the parts of our brain that evolved to protect ourselves. If you find yourself in a loop of critical thoughts, remind yourself that every human will experience self-doubt at one point or another. In fact, it’s a vital part of being human. Then remind yourself that your inner critic does not have to control your life!

There’s a big difference between that harmful voice telling you that you are not good enough and the voice that wants to help you improve. You can use these simple techniques to silence your inner critic and nurture that more empowering inner dialogue that can help you reach your full potential.

Use these techniques to start silencing your inner critic today so you can grow into the person you want to become!

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