Most people worry occasionally, but some people manage to worry so much that it becomes their whole life. They worry about their job, the weather, politics, almost anything you can think of. If these people could stop worrying, they would get a lot more done, feel better and have a much better state of mind.
That’s what we’re going to talk about today. How to stop worrying so you can get more done.
Why Do We Worry?
Worry is a state of mind where the same issue goes around and around in your head on an endless loop. The biggest problem with this kind of worrying is that it is never-ending.
The reason people allow worry to continue is they believe that by constantly thinking about the problem, their brain will magically find a solution, and the issue will go away.
But magical solutions rarely, if ever appear. The truth is if you want to stop worrying, you need to take action. You have to put in the effort needed to solve the issue you are dealing with.
The real problem with worry is, if you let it, it will sap all your emotional, mental, and even physical energy. It will continue to do this as long as you continue to give it permission to do so.
So, to stop worrying, you have to stop giving it your permission to run your life. But how do you do that?
Before You Start
In your mind, go back in time and make a note of every time you have worried in the past.
Ask yourself, “When has worry ever solved any of these problems?”
I’m hallucinating that you can’t think of one, can you?
Okay, let’s try something else.
Ask yourself, “When have I ever used worry to help me?”
Explain one time where worrying created a benefit for you that you have been able to use to make your life better.
Again, I’m thinking that you can’t think of one, right?
Okay, let’s try one last thing.
For the next three to five minutes, I want you to give one of your worries as much energy as possible. Let’s give this worry one last chance before we tackle it head on. Let yourself worry with as much angst and despair as you can muster for the next 3 to 5 minutes to see what happens.
Ready, set, go!
Alright, what happened?
Okay, let’s move on.
What you’ve just done is use a process to analyze if worry can help. What you have discovered was worry never actually solved anything, right?
Through this process, you have also discovered that worry has never created a single benefit for you or made your life better, right?
Finally, you gave worry the best of your ability for 3 to 5 minutes straight and nothing changed, right?
You have found a process that doesn’t work.
Now let’s examine a process that CAN work.
Now that you’ve proved to yourself that the worrying process won’t resolve any issues, and, in fact, puts your mind in a tailspin, let’s look at a process that will help you to stop worrying.
3 Steps to Stop Worrying:
1. Write a detailed description of the issue.
Worry doesn’t happen in a vacuum. So, like any issue, the first thing you need to do is identify and clarify exactly what it is worrying you.
- When did this worry appear?
- What it’s cause?
- How is the issue behind the worry affecting my life?
- Is there anything else I should know about this worry?
2. Next, write down what result would resolve this issue to your satisfaction.
Think about your ideal result. If you can think of multiple solutions (a very good idea), write them all down. You might think of other solutions later, but for the moment, just write the ones down that pop into your mind.
3. Make a decision and implement it.
The reason most people can’t stop worrying is they won’t take the action needed to put it behind them. Instead, choose one solution and put into action.
Don’t spend time worrying if it is the perfect solution. The worst you will find out is that the one you’re trying doesn’t work the way you want it to. This is great news!
Because you know what doesn’t work.
Now, try something else. Every time you make a decision and take action, you are moving out of the worry loop and into the black belt mindset. The black belt mindset is where you make a decision and then try it.
If it works, great!
If it doesn’t, make another decision and take another action.
This is how anyone who has done anything worthwhile has succeeded. Have the mindset, if my first decision doesn’t work out, I’ll try something else and I’ll keep trying until I succeed!
Remember – You Can’t Always Resolve a Problem but You Can Always Choose Your Response
You will run into problems that you may not be able to solve. The company you work for goes out of business, the person you thought you were going to spend your life with decides to go in a different direction, a pandemic sweeps across the world.
While there’s nothing you can do to alleviate these kinds of issues, you can still choose how you respond. Instead of allowing worrying to negatively affecting your wellbeing, when you find yourself starting to worry, immediately redirect your thoughts to finding a solution.
This takes practice, but the more you practice, the easier it becomes. If you’d like to learn more about how to do this then pick up a copy of Secrets of the Black Belt Mindset.
The next time worry starts creeping up on you, tell yourself STOP!
Now, make a detailed description of it. Write down some possible solutions to it. Finally make a decision, get into gear and take the action you need to solve the issue.
This is how you can learn stop worrying permanently. By deciding to tackle issues as they come your way. Now, instead of worrying, you’ll be so busy taking action that your worries will simply fade away.
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