Popular Self-Help Advice You’ll Want to Avoid

Are you tired of being bombarded with unsolicited self-help advice on the best way to live your life? From fad diets to questionable relationship tips, it seems like everyone has an opinion on how you should be living your best life.

But let’s be real, sometimes these recommendations can be a bit…well, ridiculous. So, before you start following every self-help trend, remember to be choosy and don’t let popular ideas sway you if you feel like it’s not the right fit.

Because let’s face it, no amount of green juice is going to make up for a lack of common sense! So, today, stick with me as we navigate the world of self-development together, one outlandish piece of advice at a time.

This Self-Help Advice is Hard to Swallow

While self-help advice is often well-intended, it can be hard to digest. Let’s take a closer look at some of these pearls of wisdom—and by wisdom, we mean difficult-to-follow instructions.

1. Stay positive, no matter what.

No matter how often we hear it, pretending to be positive when we’re feeling anything but even the slightest bit satisfactory is not good advice. 

Don’t let your negative emotions hold you hostage. Instead recognize them so you can take control.  These emotions are telling you something, so use them as a stimulant for growth. 

Instead of brushing them aside, accept your feelings.  This is your first step toward good mental health. Now, make a commitment to process and work through your emotions in positive ways.

Talk to a friend. Try cognitive behavioral therapy.  See a talk therapist.  Put into practice whatever helps you to move through your emotions, instead of avoiding them. 

You can also try self-care activities like spiritual self-help. Activities like mindfulness, or even some good old-fashioned meditation can help you center yourself during moments of emotional turmoil. 

At the end of this journey through the darkness lies personal development and long-term growth.

2. Believe it and you can achieve it.

Sure, believing in yourself is great, but let’s not get ahead of ourselves. We all have limitations, whether it’s physical or mental.

You might think you want to be an American Ninja Warrior like Joe Moravsky or an Ultra Marathon runner like Jim Walmsley, but unless you’re ready to put in a whole lot of time and effort, it’s very unlikely to happen.

So, keep it real.

Set achievable goals based on your abilities and resources. Don’t try to run a marathon without proper training or perform a complex medical procedure without the necessary expertise.

That’s just asking for trouble.

Instead, you’re looking to find the right balance between self-belief and self-awareness. You can do remarkable things, but you have got to be realistic about it.

While you want to keep an open mind, focus on what you’re naturally good at and then take it one step at a time. This will help you achieve what you really want to get out of life. 

3. Forget the pain (really bad self-help advice).

Chesty Puller, the highly decorated U.S. Marine Corps officer, was noted for saying, “Pain is weakness leaving the body.” You’ll see some self-improvement books that use this quote and suggest it as well.

While this might be a clever way to motivate young Marine recruits to get ready to go off to fight in the Pacific in WW II, for you and I, it’s terrible self-help advice. 

Pain is a signal from your body that something’s not quite right. Ignoring pain can lead to profound consequences. In most cases, it will not help you achieve your goals, in fact, in many cases, it will impede your ability to go after them.  

For example, let’s say you’re experiencing severe knee pain while running but you continue to push through. Ignoring the pain could – and often will – result in a more serious injury.  

Now you may have to go through surgery and long-term rehabilitation.

Maybe you know someone in a toxic relationship or a job that is causing them emotional pain. Advising them to ignore that pain and continue in their situation could have long-term negative mental health effects.

If you’re experiencing pain, you want to find and address the source. Whether it’s going to the doctor or the therapist or leaving the toxic environment, do something about it!  

While ignoring pain sounds gutsy, don’t put it into practice. Have the courage to be vulnerable and then make the necessary changes.

Trust me, your future self will thank you.

4. Embrace the change.

On April 23, 1985, Coca-Cola introduced New Coke. Seventy-nine days later, Coca-Cola executives announced the return of the original formula, under the label “Coca-Cola Classic.”


Because their loyal drinkers were totally upset by that marketing choice. In fact, they were so mad that some customers sued the company to get it to go back to the “old” coke. 

This change cost Coca Cola $4 million on research and marketing, and $30 million on unsold New Coke inventory. I’m sure those Coca Cola executives would agree that change was not the right choice.  

In fact, change can be as overrated as that one-hit-wonder song that everybody raves about for a week or two before moving on to the next big thing. 

Now, don’t get me wrong, sometimes change can be great. For example, finally ditching that toxic ex or finding a new job that doesn’t make you want to run for the hills.

But don’t forget, like Coca Cola did, that sometimes, the grass is actually greener on your side of the fence. Change for change’s sake isn’t always good. 

So, if you’re content with your current situation, embrace it and enjoy the ride. And if change does come knocking, don’t be afraid to make the most of it. And, if it doesn’t improve your life, just forget it and go back to what you were doing.  

Remember, at the end of the day, your happiness doesn’t depend on the amount of change you’ve got going on in your life. What matters is being open to change and then deciding if it’s the right choice for you for what you want in life. 

5. You need to follow a specific diet.

You know what the best-selling self-help books are?

Books on various diets, which are part of a billion-dollar industry, with advice to help us lose weight but leave us with questionable results, at best.  

You’ probably agree that there’s nothing more frustrating than spending years trying different diets and still not getting the results you want. It’s like throwing a dart blindfolded and hoping it lands somewhere useful. 

The truth is every human body is different. There’s no one-size-fits-all solution when it comes to dieting. 

Sure, you can follow a popular diet plan that some celebrity swears by, but who knows if it’ll work for you? It’s like wearing your friend’s jacket, who is six inches taller than you, and expecting it to fit.

You need to find your own path and create a diet and meal plan that fits YOU.

Don’t be afraid to take charge of your eating habits. Tailor your diet to your lifestyle, budget, allergies, and other concerns. It might require a little extra effort, but the results will be worth it.

Stop reading the books that are only trying to sell you something and start blazing your own delicious, healthy trail!

The Best Self-Help Advice to Follow

You don’t have to take the advice or follow the fad diets every book offers. While it can be helpful, when it comes to self-help books and advice, it’s best to be sensible when choosing who and what to pay attention to. 

To be fair, many of the best self-help books have tips and tricks that are useful and can change your life. They offer practical examples and provide the psychology behind their suggestions as well as the data to back them up. 

But others can be off-base or downright misleading and can lead you down a frustrating path.

The best self-help books to read don’t just make us feel good. You want more than that. 

Understand, I’m not saying, don’t read any self-help books or take any advice. I read bestseller self-development books all the time. They have truly improved my life. 

But when reading self-help advice, the most successful people take the time to figure out what advice will give them a sense of achievement. They look for information that can make changes to the way we live our lives. 

Take the critical approach. Follow input from authors that encourages readers to see how their advice works for them.

While reading the books you’re interested in, answer this question, “Does this align with my values and needs?” 

And always remember, common sense is key. If the answer is no, then trust your gut. 

I hope you’ll continue to explore the world of self-improvement with me. While there are no simple rules, remember to keep a healthy dose of skepticism when someone is telling you how to find the meaning of life. 

Discovering how to live our lives to the fullest is something each of us should strive for. But as you go down the path to self-discovery, keep a sense of skepticism and a willingness to try the things that truly resonate with you.

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