Learn to Focus on What You Can Control

Today we’re going to talk about why it’s so important to focus on what you can control. Now I want you to know this is a skill I learned. It took me a long time to figure this out.  

You see, for the longest time I would pay attention to all the things I couldn’t control.

For example  I spent hours worrying about what others thought of me. As a result I would often find myself cranky and annoyed. 

I would focus on past mistakes and found myself ruminating over past mistakes. This often led me down a dark path of self-doubt and regret.

Also I would worry about the future, which kept me up at night. Sometimes I wouldn’t sleep at all.

What I found is by acknowledging these issues and shifting my focus to what I can control, I was able to reclaim my power. This new perspective enabled me to find peace while embracing life’s uncertainties with a newfound sense of clarity and purpose.

Seizing Control: Igniting Your Inner Fire for Personal Growth and Resilience

Look, life can be a crazy rollercoaster, but when you learn how to focus on what you can control, you can be the conductor, not just a passenger. This is how you steer your life towards those big, beautiful dreams. 

The problem is, we often focus on things that are out of our hands, and that will drive you bonkers.

That’s why today we’re diving deep into the land of do-able things. These tips will help you master your mindset and take control of your destiny. 

So, are you ready to wave goodbye to stress and say hello to resilience?

I’m about to unveil the secrets to navigating life’s wild ride with grace and purpose. 

Let’s get this party started with a mindset that screams “I’m in charge, and I’m feeling amazing!”

What’s this secret weapon?

Shifting your focus to what you can control. 

When you do this, you can conquer the world, one manageable chunk at a time.

Mastering Autonomy: Navigating External Circumstances and Internal Responses

We all know that life throws some really wild curveballs at times, right?

But you know what? 

You don’t have to be a puppet on a string when those curveballs come flying in. You get to choose how you react.   

As Viktor E. Frankl points out in his book “, Man’s Search for Meaning”, you might not be able to control what’s happening around you, but you can decide how you handle it. 

This is where the power lies. 

It’s all about taking charge, being in the driver’s seat, and then rolling with what life throws in your direction. This way, you can rock your life and connect with everyone in a way that’s true to your beliefs and dreams.

Empowering Autonomy: Crafting Purposeful Goals and Defining Boundaries

By zeroing in on what you can control, you unlock the superpower that enables you to set epic goals, establish rock-solid boundaries, and elevate your feelings of well-being. This laser-focused approach propels you to direct your energy to the areas where you can truly make waves, sparking a fire of purpose and satisfaction in everything you go after.

Moreover, homing in on what you can control fuels a problem-solving attitude supercharging your decision-making abilities. Instead of feeling like you’re at the mercy of external forces, you’re tapping into your inner strengths and resources to enable you to tackle challenges head-on. This will allow you to find solutions that sync with your long-term game plan.

Focusing on what you can control isn’t about turning a blind eye to outside influences or playing the blame game.

It’s about owning the heck out of your power to shape your responses, attitudes, and actions in the face of tough times.

Embracing this mindset shift empowers you to lead a life filled with intention and resilience.

Unleash Your Inner Power With this Mindfulness Exercise

As you continue on your journey, remember that while there may be aspects of life beyond your control, the way you choose to engage with these circumstances is entirely within your grasp. Embrace the power of focusing on what you can control, and watch as it transforms your outlook, fortifies your resilience, and propels you towards a life defined by purpose and authenticity.

So today I want to offer you a simple yet powerful mindfulness exercise that will help you focus on what you want.

It’s called, “Make a List.”

How to Use a List to Focus on What You CAN Control

When your thoughts start time-traveling to the past or future, you can bring yourself back to the now by jotting down what’s in your control and what’s not.

First, find a serene spot and get comfortable. Then take three deep breaths. Now take another three breaths and get ready to list away. Give yourself the green light to focus on what you can control and say goodbye to what’s out of your hands.

As you write down your lists, stay in the moment and be purposeful. When your mind wanders, gently bring it back to the task at hand.

Channel your energy towards what you can influence. This will allow you to wave goodbye to unnecessary worries.

This is the problem with constantly thinking about the past or the future. When your mind is a whirlwind of what-ifs and what-was, your mind will go to places you don’t want it to be.

By practicing this exercise, you’re giving yourself the gift of living in the now. It’s a nifty trick that will keep you focused on what you can control which will help lighten your mental load.

Embracing the Power Within: A Journey to Intentional Living

As you’ve seen, your focus is a big deal. It can either set you free or leave you feeling like you’re stuck in a bad movie.

When you fixate on stuff you can’t control, you’re basically inviting disappointment and failure to the party. But when you focus on what you can control, you’re not just dealing with life’s challenges – you’re conquering them with purpose and authenticity.

Knowing the difference between things you can change and things you can’t is like having a superpower.  It lets you sail through rough waters, set goals that actually matter, while drawing clear boundaries.

It’s like having an internal GPS that always points you toward the life of your dreams.

This newfound clarity turns your problem-solving skills into a turbocharged engine. You transform yesterday’s hurdles into today’s opportunities for learning and growth. 

You’re not at the mercy of the world anymore, you’re the captain of your own destiny, sailing toward fulfillment and success.

Keep in mind that focusing on what you can control isn’t about ignoring reality or shirking responsibility. It’s about harnessing your inner strength to shape your responses, your attitude, and your actions in a way that aligns with your goals and what you truly believe in.

Start to Focus on What You CAN Control Today!

The secret to a life filled with intention, resilience, and authenticity lies in focusing on what you CAN control. By shifting your mindset and embracing this empowering perspective, you hold the key to transforming your outlook and fortifying your inner strength.

With the “Make a List” mindfulness exercise in your arsenal, you have a powerful tool to anchor yourself in the present, refocus your energy on what truly matters, and let go of unnecessary worries.

So, go forth with confidence and embrace the transformative power of taking control.

Your journey towards a purposeful and authentic life starts with a simple list. Let it be your roadmap to a brighter, more intentional future.

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Wil Dieck
Wil Dieck is a teacher, coach, mentor, martial arts master instructor, Neuro Linguistic Programming master trainer, and master hypnotist. He is the founder of Black Belt Breakthroughs, a community dedicated to helping people use Mindful Mind Hacking to achieve clarity and focus and feel more connected to themselves and the world around them. Through his work as an author, college professor, and martial arts instructor, he has helped thousands of people from various types of backgrounds unlock their true potential. Wil combines physical training techniques from Qigong, Taichi and Yoga, neuroscience insights from over four decades of research, mindfulness meditation and his background in NLP and hypnosis to help people access their inner power so they can gain greater feelings of joy and purpose. His passion is helping others find ultimate fulfillment in life through developing mental strength and emotional resilience.

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