Build Better Relationships Using NLP

How would you like to build better relationships? How about with your  boss and co-workers?  How about improving your relationships your spouse, kids, and other loved ones?

If you’re single, maybe you want to find a relationship. Maybe you want to have more friends.

Here’s the thing about relationships. Built correctly, they can improve how you feel about yourself and, as a result, your quality of life. In fact, according to the Better Health Channel of Australia, “The benefits of social connections and good mental health are numerous. Proven links include lower rates of anxiety and depression, higher self-esteem, greater empathy, and more trusting and cooperative relationships.”

 So, having relationships are good for your body, mind and soul. If knowing how to build better relationships seems like something you’d like to know more about, then read on.  

How to Use NLP to Build Better Relationships

One of NLP’s strengths is communications. NLP can help you better understand the other person’s point of view. It allows your communications to become more flexible. Additionally, Neuro-Linguistic Programming gives you the tools you need  to build deep and lasting rapport.

Rapport is that feeling you get when you “just click” with another person. They feel you are listening to them, and you feel they are listening to you. You are on the same wavelength as the person you are with. This makes communication easy and nearly effortless.

Some of the best tools you can use for developing rapport are mirroring and matching. Matching and mirroring are subtly moving your body to match or mirror the person you’re communicating with.

For example, you can match or mirror their posture, how they are standing, sitting, slouching.

You can match or mirror their breathing. This could be breathing fast or slow or deeply or shallowly.

You can also match mirror their arm and leg movements by crossing your hands subtly when they cross their arms or scratch your hand if they scratch their arm.

Of course, you can do similar mirroring and matching techniques with how a person speaks. If they speak fast, then you speak fast. If they speak slow, you speak at a slower rate.

The idea here is to match or mirror them in a way that will help you to put yourself in the other person’s shoes. This will give you a much better idea of how they are feeling and what they are thinking. This is how you build better relationships, by truly trying to understand where the other person is coming from.

You Can Build Better Relationships With NLP

As you have seen, you can use NLP to gain a heightened understanding of the other person and what makes them tick. You can build better relationships by patterning your own responses and behavior to meet the other person’s needs. This builds deep, lasting rapport, in an ethical manner that allows you to stay true to yourself.

While it takes lots of time and energy to build a relationship, as anyone will tell you, having a good relationship is worth it. Of course, relationships are like everything else, the more you put in, the more you get out.

You can use NLP to build better relationships. Invest some time and effort in learning the mirroring and matching techniques we’ve talked about in this article.  This will be one of the best investments you can make.


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Wil Dieck
Wil Dieck is a teacher, coach, mentor, martial arts master instructor, Neuro Linguistic Programming master trainer, and master hypnotist. He is the founder of Black Belt Breakthroughs, a community dedicated to helping people use Mindful Mind Hacking to achieve clarity and focus and feel more connected to themselves and the world around them. Through his work as an author, college professor, and martial arts instructor, he has helped thousands of people from various types of backgrounds unlock their true potential. Wil combines physical training techniques from Qigong, Taichi and Yoga, neuroscience insights from over four decades of research, mindfulness meditation and his background in NLP and hypnosis to help people access their inner power so they can gain greater feelings of joy and purpose. His passion is helping others find ultimate fulfillment in life through developing mental strength and emotional resilience.
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