Would you like to get to know yourself better?
You might be thinking, “Why would I need to do that?”
Let me tell you a secret. You probably don’t really know yourself…like, at all.
There are parts of you that are darker than the bat cave, and you know this deep down inside. But before you run off to bury those thoughts in a tub of ice cream, hear me out.
It’s time to face those uncomfortable truths about yourself and get to know the fabulous, flawed, and fantastic person you really are.
So, put down that phone, turn off the TV, and let’s get to it!
Why You Don’t Know Yourself
Picture this: You have a half-hour conversation with another person. In that time, you’ve got a decent idea of their whole personality complete with their flaws and quirks.
When we chat with others, we can’t help but analyze their words, actions, and behaviors. It’s like a mental game of CSI, where we spot patterns, deduce character traits and pass judgment on their personality.
It’s a funny thing, isn’t it? We can sometimes know more about a stranger than we do about ourselves.
Meanwhile, you find yourself scratching your head, bewildered about why your own life isn’t quite hitting the mark.
If this is you, it’s time to take a deep dive into the world of self-discovery. This isn’t a surface-level discussion we’re talking about.
You’re going to do some intense introspection. To get to know yourself, you’ll need to peel back layers of your thoughts, emotions, beliefs, values, and experiences. It’s like excavating a treasure trove of insights deep inside yourself.
And I’m not going to kid you. This ain’t a walk in the park.
It takes time and effort, like solving the “The Pillow” which is 13x13x13 Rubik’s cube on steroids. But even though it’s difficult, believe me, the payoff is worth it.
So, let’s take the time to unlock the mysteries of your inner world together.
Follow these steps to get to know yourself intimately:
Okay, it’s time to take a little journey inward and get to know yourself better. With a healthy dose of curiosity, patience, and self-love, you’re going to discover new things about yourself.
This experience will help you grow personally and feel more connected to your own life. I hope that’s what you want to do.
If it is, let’s get to it!
1. Spend time alone with yourself every day.
Have you ever tried spending quality time with yourself? We’re talking about 20 minutes of alone time so you can get to know yourself.
This can be 20 minutes at the end of the day after everyone else goes to bed. You can also choose time during the day to go to the park and walk or sit quietly.
Find what works for you and give yourself the gift of solitude.
2. Remove any distractions during this time.
If you want to really get to know yourself, you’ve got to cut out all the noise. No distractions, no books, no gadgets, no funny business, no nada.
It’s just you and the most important person in your life – YOU.
The best spot to do this? In a chair, facing a blank wall.
And in a while, you’ll have so much fun talking to yourself, you won’t miss any of those distractions.
3. Have a conversation with yourself.
Now it’s time to get to know yourself a little better. You can start the same as you’d do with anyone, by asking questions.
Here’s an example.
“What do you do for a living? Do you just love your job or are you counting down the hours until happy hour?”
“Wait, you don’t like your job?”
“Now it’s time to really spill the beans. What’s keeping you there? Is it a steady income or the daily dose of office drama?”
“Okay, moving on. What really matters to you in life? Is it family, friends, career, or all the above?”
As you come up with your answers, don’t judge them. Just accept and note them.
Next ask, “What are you afraid of? Is it spiders, public speaking, or the thought of living an unfulfilling life?”
As you answer these questions, dig deep, and figure out what fears are holding you back.
4. If you want to get to know yourself, you need to dig deep.
If you genuinely want to get to know yourself, you need to do some real soul-searching.
Ask yourself the tough questions. Don’t pull any punches.
Take a trip down memory lane. Revisit your childhood, the good, the bad and the downright ugly.
Did your upbringing shape the person you are today, or did you defy the odds and forge your own path?
Time travel is unfortunately not an option (yet!). But imagine if it was. What advice would you give your younger self?
Next, let’s talk about the present. What challenges are you facing right now? What should you be doing about them?
Have a no-holds-barred conversation with yourself about the things that make you cringe. Doing this will allow you to chart a course for the future that speaks to your authentic self.
Remember, the deeper you dig, the brighter the light will shine when you get to the other side.
5. To get clear, keep digging.
It’s difficult to get to know yourself. There’s going to be times that you’ll just want to throw up your hands and give the whole thing up.
But when you hit a roadblock, don’t throw in the towel. Keep digging.
Keep chipping away at that stubborn problem until you strike gold. Don’t give up at the first sign of difficulty.
It’s like scrolling mindlessly through social media. That’s just avoidance.
Instead, face yourself and embrace who you are, warts and all.
Trust me, the moment you break through that mental block, you’ll feel like a champion. So, put on your hard hat and keep digging!
6. Learn to meditate.
A terrific way to get to know yourself on a whole new level is using meditation. Meditation will help you observe those thoughts without judging them.
What you’ll find is, over time, the truth will reveal itself. You’ll be able to use what you find to build your life into what you want it to be.
Make meditation a regular part of your life. It’ll help you gain some serious self-awareness.
Use These Tips to Get to Know Yourself Better
While we all think we’re pretty remarkable, the only way to become your best self is to get to know yourself.
This means you need to put down the distractions. You need to dig deep into who you really are and accept that person for who they are.
The problem is we’re quick to point out others’ flaws, yet we’re blind to our own. Instead, take a good, hard look at yourself.
Really examine your life. Trust me, it’ll be worth it.
If you don’t take the time to get to know yourself, you’ll be stuck in the same rut you’ve been in forever. And let’s be real, that can be a boring and unsatisfying way to live.
So, what are you waiting for?
Take the first step towards a more meaningful and fulfilling life.
Use these tips to get to know the amazing person that is you.