Why do some people succeed, and other people never seem to get out of the starting blocks?
Some people believe that it’s luck that causes success. Others will say it’s because they knew the right people or were at the right place at the right time.
While there are lots of reasons people imagine others succeed, the one thing that all successful people have in common is a steadfast belief in themselves.
How do these people build their self-confidence? They affirm their self-worth with their positive self-talk.
This week, since self-talk is so important to success, let’s look at self-validation and 5 positive affirmations to say to yourself to boost your self-belief.
The importance of self-validation
Are you ever unsure of your capabilities or question what you can accomplish?
Do you sometimes lack self-confidence?
When you feel stuck in self-doubt, you’re probably lacking self-validation. This is when you need to check what you are saying to yourself.
Your self-talk validates who you are to you. Psychologist and author Sherrie Campbell tells us that, “Self-validation is the process of affirming your own worthiness.”
It’s recognizing and accepting that your own thoughts, feelings, and experiences are valid. Self-validation gives you permission to be exactly who you are—flaws and all.
If you’re looking for a little self-love and encouragement, here are five self-validating positive affirmations to say to yourself to build up your self-belief and confidence.
1. I am enough!
This statement declares that you are worthy of and can handle whatever life throws at you. It tells the world -and you- that you are enough—exactly as you are.
Whenever you doubt your abilities or question your worthiness, the positive affirmation to say to yourself is, “I am enough.”
This reminds you that your value doesn’t come from what you achieve or don’t achieve. It doesn’t come from other people’s impression of you.
It tells you that, because you exist, you are valuable. You were born worthy of love and respect.
Just as you are, you are enough. You always have been and always will be.
2. I am not my mistakes.
Everyone makes mistakes. It’s what makes us human.
But our mistakes do not define us. If we let them, they are simply lessons we learn along the way.
Too often, we let ourselves dwell on our mistakes and allow them to define us. We beat ourselves up and tell ourselves that we’re not good enough.
We believe our mistakes diminish us, that they reflect our worth as a person. But this is simply not true.
Your mistakes do not determine your worth.
Instead of beating yourself up, the positive affirmation to say to yourself
is, “I am not my mistakes.”
This simple phrase can be incredibly powerful. It allows you to accept yourself, even when you’ve made a mistake.
This phrase gives you permission to move on and to learn from your mistakes.
It reminds you of your worthiness. That you are a deserving person.
You are more than your mistakes. Use them as opportunities for growth and self-improvement.
Just try not to make the same mistake twice!
3. I am strong!
No matter who you are, there are going to be times when you feel weak in some area. This is okay!
Sometimes everyone will feel weak in some part of their life. When this happens, the positive affirmation to say to yourself is, “I am strong!”
This will help you draw on your inner strength and see you through any challenge or adversity you face in life.
As Joseph P. Kennedy once said, “When the going gets tough, the tough get going.” You can use “I am strong” to draw on your inner strength when things get tough.
It says you can do this!
4. I am not alone!
If you find yourself in a difficult situation, remind yourself that you are never truly alone. This is especially true if you believe in a higher power.
There is always someone who loves and cares for you, even if it’s just your furry best friend.
When you feel alone or abandoned, the positive affirmation to say to yourself is, “I am not alone!’
After you say this, reach out to your support network. Ask for guidance and comfort.
These people will be there for you, just like you’ll be there for them when they need it most.
5. I am capable of greatness!
You were built for greatness! Remind yourself regularly that you have limitless potential.
Whether your dreams are big or small, know that you have what it takes to make them a reality. The sky really is the limit!
When you feel you need a boost, the positive affirmation to say to yourself is, “I am capable of greatness!”
If others have done it before, you can too.
See your potential for what it is, limitless, and go out there and achieve greatness!
Use these positive affirmations to become all that you can be!
If you allow it, negative self-talk will impede your journey to greatness. It can and will hold you back from living your best life.
Instead of allowing these self-defeating thoughts to fester, use these positive affirmations to heal your mind and give yourself some self-love and encouragement.
By reading and believing these self-validating statements, you can start building up your confidence today so that tomorrow feels a little bit brighter, and each day after that, too.
Remember, you are enough… Always!
You can learn how to talk to yourself in a way that builds you up. In Mastering the Mind, Body and Spirit: Secrets of Black Belt Peak Performance, you’ll find a step-by-step process you can use to create positive affirmations to say to yourself in nearly any situation.