14 Questions to Know Yourself Better

Why should you get to know yourself better? It’s because we all have blind spots in our lives.  The greatest blind spot most of us have is about ourselves.

When push comes to shove, most of us really don’t know ourselves all that well. We certainly don’t see ourselves the way others do. This is why tools like the Johari Window can be so enlightening .

To know yourself better might be one of the greatest challenges you’ll ever face. But this is a challenge well worth pursuing.

Getting to know yourself better has many benefits including better managing your feelings, emotions, energy and your overall life.

Today, we’ll take a look at some questions that will help you know yourself better.

Ask Yourself These 14 questions to Know Yourself Better:


1. What activities do I engage in to distract myself from what’s important?

Every one of us has ways to avoid things that we don’t want to do. You might eat, shop, watch TV, surf the internet, call a friend, clean the house, read a book, work out or go for a walk. While these aren’t necessarily bad activities, they won’t help work through the important stuff in your life.

When you use this question know yourself better, you’ll begin noticing how, and when, you distract yourself. This allows you to renew your focus on the tasks that you need to accomplish.

2.  What would I tell my younger self?

Many people, maybe you’re one, wish they had a time machine so they could give themselves a do-over. While you won’t be able to get a do-over, you can use what you’ve learned in your past as feedback. So, what would you tell your younger self, so you won’t make the same mistakes again?

3. What time of day can I focus the most easily?

In “The Power of When”,  Michael Breus shows the reader how to “Discover Your Chronotype – and the Best Time to Eat Lunch, Ask for a Raise, Have Sex, Write a Novel, Take Your Meds, and More”. His argument is that we all have certain times of the day when we are best at certain tasks.

I find his argument to be very compelling. Most people experience the greatest ability to focus either early in the day or late in the day.

When do you find it easiest to focus? When you get to know yourself better you can use this information to greatly improve many areas of your life.

4.  At what time of day am I the most creative?

Here’s another way of getting to know yourself better. When are you best at creating? How can you use this information?

5. What 10 words would you say accurately describes you?

Since you’re the only one that’s going to read your answer, be sure to be very honest with yourself. These aren’t the words you’d like to describe you. These are the words that actually describe you.

6.  What are the 10 words that you wish described you?

Now, that you honestly got to know yourself better with question 5, list the 10 words you wish were accurate about you. You can use these aspirational words to help create the person you want to be.

7.  What am I currently tolerating in my life?

We all put up with B.S. that isn’t helping us become who we want to be. Make a list of the things that you’re currently tolerating.

Is it your boss? A co-worker? Your partner? An unreliable car? Twenty extra pounds? Too much credit card debt?

What are you tolerating that you wish was out of your life?

8. Why am I here?

What do I believe is the meaning of life? Knowing yourself better means knowing what your life is about. Now that you’ve answered this question, are you living your life accordingly?

9. If I had to drop one person from my life, who would it be?

Now, don’t tell me there’s nobody that you’d want to drop. Everybody’s got at least one. For this question, name the one person you would eliminate from your life if you had to choose just one. Now identify why you would eliminate that person. Why are they still part of your life?

10. What would be the perfect day for me?

In my book, Mindful Mastery: Find Focus, Get Unstuck, and Drop Into the Peak Performance Zone, I ask, what would you do if money were no object. The reason I ask this question is because it’s a lot easier to focus on what you want, once you know what it is.

The same thing goes for having a great day. It’s a lot easier to have a perfect day if you know what one looks like. Take a morning or afternoon and describe your perfect day. Now, that you know yourself better, what would make an even better day for you?

11. Whom do I most respect?

This can be a person that you personally know or somebody who is a role model either from the present or past. Why do you respect this person? Do you have some of the same traits that this person possesses? How would your life change if you had more of their traits?

12. What would I do if I were less afraid?

Fear limits everyone. In his Ted Talk,  What I learned from 100 days of rejection,  Jia Jiang, talks about how fear had held him back. He found instead of confronting his fears, he was just trying to avoid them.

Most people believe they have conquered their fears, when they, like Jia Jiang, have simply found ways to avoid them. A life built around the need to avoid your fears is a life that’s limited.

There are Mindful Mind Hacks you can use to build your self-confidence and get to know yourself better. Taking the time to do this will make for a richer, more productive life. 

13. What are my greatest weaknesses?

As the Johari Window shows us, to know yourself means knowing your weaknesses. Let’s face it, no one is perfect. Weaknesses are part of life. What are your weaknesses and how are they impacting your life? What can you do to overcome them?

14. What is my greatest strength?

Once you have identified your greatest strength, ask “How can I use my greatest strength to my best advantage?” Are you taking full advantage of your strength?

Use These Questions to Get to Know Yourself Better

Use these questions to get to know yourself better.

Knowing yourself increases your inner power.

Understanding  your strengths, weaknesses, and how to manage yourself effectively, helps you develop into a powerful person.

When you know the type of person you want to be and how you want to live, you have direction and purpose.

Get to know yourself better. It is the path to freedom.

Ready to get real with yourself? Dive deep into your thoughts and unravel the mysteries of who you are with my book, Mindful Mastery. Understand yourself better and reach new levels of success with practical exercises and a newfound self-awareness!

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