The first part of my book, Mindful Mastery: Find Focus, Get Unstuck, and Drop Into the Peak Performance Zone, focuses on adding purpose to your life. The reason I wrote the book was, in part, because many of my clients simply weren’t happy with their lives. A common thread with these people was they didn’t have a reason or purpose and I thought by providing them with a step-by-step process they could refer to anytime they wanted, they would be able to move down their path more easily.
This lack of focus caused some these people to fall into self-destructive behaviors like drug and alcohol abuse. Others seemed to be constantly looking for excuses to justify why they weren’t doing anything with their lives.
Maybe you can relate to what these people were going through. I sure can.
There was a time in my life where I had no clear focus and my life was spinning out of control. It was filled with chaos, self-sabotage, and excuses.
This is why I invested so much time in researching finding purpose. I selfishly wanted to improve my own life. As a result of my research, I was able to develop simple strategies anyone can use for adding purpose to their life too.
This is what we’re going to talk about today.
The Problem with Not Having Purpose
When people don’t have any direction, they begin to believe that the world owes them something. They find excuses for not achieving and search for ways to blame others for their lack of success.
No one does this deliberately. No one sets out to live a life without purpose. While there can be lots of reasons for this, often a lack of purpose is driven by circumstances.
Perhaps they lived in an environment where the number mentors who knew how to find purpose was limited. Maybe they had a purpose at one time but failed to achieve what they’d set out to do one too many times and they gave up on it.
There’s lots of reasons someone might not have purpose. But a lack of a sense of direction will leave you feeling dissatisfied with what you already have. It will always drive you to look for more, because what you have doesn’t fill your life with meaning.
So how can you break this cycle and add more purpose to your life?
5 strategies for adding purpose to your life:
1. Chill out for a day or so.
Adding purpose to your life can be difficult, especially if you’re burned out. This is when you should highly consider taking a break.
Taking a break from your daily life can do wonders for your mood and energy. Often not feeling like doing anything comes from being overworked, anxious and stressed. A break will help you recharge your batteries and will allow you to gain a new perspective on what’s going on in your life.
It’s okay to give yourself a mental health day so you can get to know yourself a little better. When you take your day off, resolve to let go of what you think you’re supposed to do and, instead, focus on what makes you feel good about yourself and the world around you.
Many people (including me) believe that our breakthrough to success is located just outside our comfort zone. That can be true in many circumstances. But when you’re struggling with purpose, a good break can be exactly what you need to recharge and refocus.
Taken strategically, a break will give you time to reflect and the space needed to understand what your life is all about. This discovery will help you feel motivated to go back to your daily life and do more.
2. Look for things to do outside work.
Many people have interests they’d like to go after but end up not pursuing because they feel those interests are a waste of time. What this often means in western society Is it doesn’t add to our financial bottom line.
But, taking time with hobbies and interests can help you change your focus while at the same time adding purpose to your life.
For example, maybe you love video games. You could build a website that reviews and evaluates the pros and cons of different games. Maybe you could even become a well-known blogger in the video game arena.
If you love jewelry, you could make jewelry for yourself and other people in your life. If you love photography, you could start taking photos at the local park or join a photography class. If you love graphic design, you could design your own business cards, brochures, and other materials for yourself and people in your inner circle.
As you can see, your focus here doesn’t need to relate to money. But it should relate to something you’re passionate about. This can help add a feeling of purposefulness to your life.
3. Accept the fact that you’re stuck.
When you’re stuck you don’t notice it. After running in place for a while, these stuck feelings build up, and in no time, you can become apathetic. Instead of accomplishing your life’s work, you begin to feel like everything you do is just marking time.
After a while, these feelings can turn into anxiety, discouragement and even depression. When you feel like this, accept that you’re stuck. This negative loop won’t change until you recognize it for what it is, a perception of your reality. Instead of blaming yourself for these feelings, accept them. Once you do, you can begin to break this negative loop for good.
4. Do something creative.
Whether its painting, dancing, or making pottery, art can be an excellent therapy and can help you express your feelings. Creative activities are a fun way to help you unlock feelings that you may have been holding in because you were too afraid to feel them.
As you express those emotions, you’ll break your stuckness cycle. Of course, this can help you to feel more passionate about the people and things in your life again.
Keep in mind that the goal here isn’t to sell your works of art or make a name for yourself but simply to enjoy your creative side.
5. Reach out to others for guidance.
Sometimes we need a different perspective. This is where a coach can help. By talking with someone about what’s going on in your life, they might be able to point you in a direction that you’re just not seeing.
When looking for a coach, find someone who has worked with people who have had similar experiences to you and have helped them in their journey to add purpose to their lives.
Adding purpose is essential to living a fulfilling life.
Circumstances can sometimes overcome us and cause us to lose our direction. It can even cause us to feel stuck.
While feeling this way can be discouraging, it doesn’t have to be. There are plenty of ways to add purpose to your life. You can use these tips to start finding yours today!
Looking for a way to add purpose to your life? Then pick up your copy of Mindful Mastery: Find Focus, Get Unstuck, and Drop Into the Peak Performance Zone to get a step-by-step process to help you find your purpose and get more out of life!